A Peek into My Non-Writing Life

I’m vocal about my love of chocolate, obsession with coffee, my fun family and, yes, my dumb-dumb dog. It’s no secret I love University of Michigan football and the television show, Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders: Making the Team. One thing I don’t talk about much? My parents.

 

My husband and my dad

Dad, my husband and I three or four years ago. Love Dad’s smile here!

I visited them Thursday. I’m really close to Mom. She’s a true role model for me. She’s full of energy, never lets anyone push her around, and has a heart bigger than Lake Michigan. I love that woman! I also adore my dad, but his health has declined over the last few years. Due to Parkinson’s disease and late stages of Alzheimer’s, he is too sick to live at home, so he lives in a nursing home.

Dad’s a sweetheart. The nursing staff and CENA’s love him, and so do we. I’m really thankful he has such patient, goodhearted people caring for him. Yesterday, Mom and I sat with him during lunch, and some memories hit me of us eating around our dining room table when I was young. Those moments barb my heart, and I’ll admit, I got a little teary.

See, Dad usually doesn’t recognize me anymore, although he does recognize some people. It really depends on the day. If you told me two years ago this would be how it is, I would have fallen apart. But we’ve (including my sister) been with Dad throughout this journey, and I’m at peace with it.

I’m blessed. I still get to spend time with him. I look forward to it!

Whether he knows me or not, he likes me and enjoys it when I’m there. And every time I look at him, I see his beautiful blue eyes–the ones he gave to me–and I know we’re going to have great conversations someday in Heaven. Do I wish he could enjoy his senior years without these diseases? Of course. In many ways I feel he and Mom were robbed of their golden years. But, hey, we know people who have it worse. We all lose loved ones–some violently, some to disease, some tragically, some slowly, some unexpectedly. Talk to anyone, and you’ll hear a story of loss.

That’s why my faith means so much to me. I know there is better. I know this life is a blip–an imperfect blip–and there is so much more ahead. God gets us through.

Anyhow, I live a few hours away from my parents, so I visit about once a month. The drive gives me time to think, and I am so thankful I get to spend a few hours with Mom and Dad. I just wish I lived closer so I could help more.

So that’s a peek into my non-writing life. What’s going on with you this week?

Release week of Unexpected Family has been fun! Thank you to everyone who has purchased the book and helped spread the word about it!

Have a terrific weekend!

JillKemerer

Jill Kemerer writes contemporary romance novels with love, humor and faith. Besides spoiling her mini-dachshund and keeping up with her busy kids, Jill enjoys magazines, M&MS, fluffy animals and nature walks. She resides in Ohio with her husband and two children.  Jill loves connecting with readers, so please visit her website, jillkemerer.com.

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  1. My dad had Alzheimer’s, too. It’s hard to see the ones we love fade before our eyes. Those barbed memories will become sweeter. My dad didn’t remember who I was, but he was always happy to have me visit. I think deeply buried in his memory, he knew who I was. One of the last times I visited, he said to me, “I know who you are!” He did, too, I’m sure of it because he asked about my brother. The “in the moment” didn’t last long, but for that bright moment, I had my daddy back. Enjoy the visits with your dad. Deep down, he knows who you are.

  2. Jill: I had several great-aunts who had Alzehiemer’s..One of those great-aunts had a daughter who had it. My dad had it. But he didn’t like what I had to do to keep him safe (put him in a nursing home.) He ignored me when I went to see him. He finally took me to court and got me removed from my position as his POA. I applied for a guardianship and the hearing commissioner ruled that he didn’t need a guardian. But his actions at the nursing home told us he did. I decided to stay away from there because of his temper. I don’t regret doing what I did to keep him safe. I sometimes miss him but I didn’t want to cause any problem for the home.

    1. My word, Cecelia, that’s depressing! I’m so sorry you had to go through all that. I think you did the right thing staying away. It’s a well known fact people’s personalities change with this disease, so the fact his temper got ugly doesn’t surprise me. I’m sorry it was such a terrible time for you. 🙁

  3. Dear Friend Jill…

    We’ve both ‘been there, done that.’ I can’t think of another person I would rather blow my nose with at Chili’s after a great conversation and cilantro stuck in my teeth after appetizers than you! What can I say — ‘see you on the other side.’ Wen

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